
-I carry out my daily tasks in a matter-of-fact and kind of numb way.
-The number of calls, messages and visits following my Mums death have basically stopped as people get on with their lives. I do still get contacted by her close friends once in a while, which is nice
-I dream about my Mum often; at least two or three times a week. Most of the time in the dreams, we are just hanging out, with her laughing and sharing jokes in her usual manner. A handful of times, I see her in distress, which can be upsetting.
-I have learned a lot about myself since her death, the main lesson being that I am like her in a lot of ways: my approach to tackling responsibilities, and me finding calmness in my own company.
-I always want to talk about her-always-but I find myself only doing so with people I recognize as having empathy. Most people expect I would have gotten over her death completely by now, which is not the case. It’s just something I have to live with.
-To deal with grief, I recommend doing things which make you happy. For me, this is reading, crocheting, knitting, praying, listening to music, watching comedy and quiz shows, and having one or two friends I confide in who listen to me patiently, even if they have heard me speak about my Mum a million times.
I miss her.
Ivie M. Eke 2022.
Hi Ivie , sending you an e hug. She is always in your heart, and dreams and sometimes when you look in the mirror you see her.
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Thank you so much.
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